Build the skills that support real connection.
Connected PNW is a guided dating and interpersonal skills program for adults who want to understand their patterns, communicate authentically, and practice building real connection in a supportive group setting.
This is not therapy. This is not a dating service. It is a skills-based learning experience — part workshop, part practice space, part social community — where people learn how to show up in relationships with more awareness, intention, and confidence.
Coaching model
Learn → Practice → Give and receive feedback → Integrate → Ready for mature relationships
This is the core coaching model behind Connected PNW. Participants do more than gain insight: they learn, practice in real interactions, receive feedback, integrate what they discover over time, and build the capacity for more mature, healthy relationships.
What participants gain
Practical tools, real-world practice, and deeper relational learning.
Participants join Connected PNW to gain insight, repeated practice, and thoughtful feedback that help them date with more clarity and confidence.
Insight
Learn about interpersonal strengths, blind spots, recurring patterns, and what you actually need in a relationship.
Skill
Build communication and relational skills that help you express yourself more clearly and show up more authentically.
Confidence
Practice in lower-pressure environments before higher-stakes dating, with support from peers and facilitators.
Program journey
From structured learning to deeper paired practice.
Connected PNW is designed as a progression from insight to practice to more immersive relational learning. The goal is not just to discuss dating, but to create a supported path where people can actually experience how connection unfolds over time.
Group learning
Participants begin in a structured group setting focused on communication, relational patterns, emotional attunement, boundaries, expectations, sexuality, and the interpersonal skills that support healthy early dating.
Social Nights
Lower-pressure social outings help participants practice new skills, notice habits in action, and build confidence in settings that feel more natural than a classroom or workshop.
Paired practice
A central part of the program is a deeper paired-practice phase. Participants are paired with another participant, with meaningful input into who they are paired with, and practice dating that individual over a three-month period. This creates a much deeper kind of relational practice than a one-time interaction.
Regular coaching along the way
During the paired-practice phase, participants receive ongoing coaching and reflection so they can understand what is happening in real time, make more intentional choices, and integrate what they are learning as the relationship develops.
About Connected PNW
A structured relational learning experience.
Connected PNW helps adults learn and practice the interpersonal skills that support healthy, authentic dating and relationships. We believe that when you know who you are, what you want from a relationship, and how to stay connected through the early stages of dating, you are far more likely to find and keep a meaningful partnership.
What Connected is
A dating skills group that builds relational ability, self-understanding, and confidence; a safe space to discover your authentic self, rough edges, and growth areas; a lower-pressure environment for practicing before higher-stakes dating; and a social practice community supported by skilled facilitators.
What Connected is not
Not therapy. Not a matchmaking or dating service. Not a promise of a perfect match. Not trial-and-error without support. Connected PNW is skills-based coaching informed by deep relational expertise.
The people behind Connected PNW
Connected PNW was created by co-founders Nina Helms and Miri Arie to give adults in the Pacific Northwest a supported place to learn, practice, and grow in how they show up in dating and relationships.
Founders & Facilitators
Connected PNW was created by Nina Helms and Miri Arie after years of listening to clients describe the challenges of dating and building meaningful relationships. Again and again, they heard a similar need: a place to practice relationship skills, receive feedback, and grow in connection with others.
Drawing on their expertise in relational psychology, group facilitation, and community building, they designed Connected PNW as a supportive, skills-based environment where participants can deepen self-awareness, strengthen communication, and develop healthier, more satisfying relationships.
Their work is grounded in attachment theory, trauma-informed practice, and a deep respect for each person's unique experience.
Dr. Miri Arie
Dr. Miri Arie is a psychologist, group facilitator, and relational skills expert specializing in helping adults understand their interpersonal patterns and build the skills needed for authentic, confident connection.
Her work centers on the belief that meaningful relationships are not just something we find—they are something we learn how to create through awareness, practice, and feedback. She is particularly interested in how people show up in early dating, friendship, and intimate relationships, and in helping individuals move from insight into real-world relational change.
Professional Background
Dr. Arie's background in psychology and group work informs her approach to relational expertise. She is a Certified Group Psychotherapist (CGP) with extensive experience facilitating group processes, interpersonal learning environments, and attachment-informed work with individuals, families, and communities.
Her clinical and academic training includes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Attachment-Based approaches, Integrative Attachment Family Therapy (IAFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), trauma-informed care, and specialized training in working with relational and emotional patterns that develop over time.
A Relational Philosophy
At the core of Dr. Arie's work is a belief that growth happens through engagement.
She emphasizes that resilience is not the absence of discomfort, but the ability to stay present, curious, and connected even when things feel uncertain or challenging. In her view, meaningful change requires both insight and practice—the willingness to step into new experiences, notice what arises in real time, and experiment with different ways of being with others.
Beyond the Work
Dr. Arie brings the same values that guide her professional work into her personal life. She is an avid climber, dancer, pianist, language learner, and reader, and she regularly participates in social justice and community-based initiatives.
She values time outdoors, meaningful relationships, and collaborative work with colleagues and community. These experiences continue to reinforce her belief that growth is an ongoing, lived process—shaped not only in structured programs, but in everyday engagement with life.
Nina Helms, MA, LMHC
Nina is a master's-level relational expert with more than a decade of experience helping people build lives rooted in authenticity, connection, and belonging. She is passionate about helping individuals understand themselves more deeply so they can create healthier relationships, stronger communities, and a greater sense of fulfillment in their everyday lives.
Professional Background
Nina's professional foundation is in psychology, with specialized expertise in relational trauma, attachment, and neurodivergence. Throughout her career, she has worked with adults, couples, and families, helping them navigate life's challenges while strengthening their capacity for connection and emotional wellbeing.
Her clinical work is grounded in an attachment-based framework that recognizes the powerful role relationships play in shaping how we view ourselves and others. Nina is trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and is Level 3 Gottman Method trained. She is also a Certified Trauma Professional (CTP).
As a relational coach and facilitator, Nina brings together evidence-based knowledge, clinical experience, and a practical understanding of everyday relationships to help people develop stronger connections, healthier communication patterns, and a more secure sense of self.
A Relational Philosophy
Nina believes that the quality of our lives is deeply influenced by the quality of our relationships. Whether with a partner, family member, friend, or community, meaningful connection begins with understanding ourselves and showing up authentically with others.
She views healthy relationships as living systems that require care, attention, and intention to thrive. Much like a garden, connection grows when nurtured through vulnerability, honest communication, trust, healthy boundaries, and shared joy. Nina believes friendship is one of the most important foundations of lasting relationships and that fun, laughter, and genuine enjoyment of one another are often overlooked ingredients in creating a connected life.
At the heart of her work is a belief in people's capacity to grow, heal, and create new patterns. She encourages others to embrace both the complexity and beauty of being human while building relationships that support a meaningful and connected life.
Beyond the Work
Nina's commitment to relationships extends far beyond her professional role. She is a wife, mother, friend, aunt, and active member of her community who believes that connection is built through everyday acts of care and presence. Family and community are central to who she is. Whether volunteering at her son's school, supporting neighbors, gathering friends around a table for a meal, or spending time with loved ones, she believes that strong communities are built through generosity, service, and meaningful relationships.
Outside of work, Nina enjoys cooking, skiing, hiking, reading, and creating opportunities to connect with family and friends. These experiences continually reinforce her belief that a rich and fulfilling life is built not through achievement alone, but through the relationships we cultivate along the way.
How we hold the space.
Our values shape how we design the program, how we facilitate, and how we invite participants to relate to one another.
Honest & kind
We believe that change happens when people can receive clear feedback in a way that is grounded, caring, and attuned to impact.
Practice over perfection
Dating and relating are messy. We prioritize experimentation, reflection, and trying again over getting it right the first time.
Consent & boundaries
We treat consent, pacing, and boundaries as core skills, not add-ons, and build them into every part of the program.
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